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5 potty training mistakes to avoid

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Don’t be scared to potty train. Your child won’t be in diapers forever! Here are 5 mistakes to avoid.

Everybody seems to potty train their kids at a certain age, but when is a child really ready? We’re breaking it down so you know when you’re ready and when your child is ready, what items you’ll need, and how to get prepared so you can be set up for success to have a smooth potty-training experience. Watch my YouTube video for the full breakdown of how my husband and I potty trained our son, and check out my resource library, which has my FREE Guide to No-Pressure Potty Learning handout!

Mistake #1 Potty training during a major change in routine.

I recommend not potty training within one month of a massive event like going to school for the first time, a baby coming, a vacation, a new house, guests staying over, or moving. Similar to most things we teach our children (including independent sleep training), we need consistency. 

Don’t feel pressured to reach the end goals in three days. That pressure will backfire. We thought we would do the three-day method. When we realized that we were approaching the three days and pressure was building we let go of that expectation. 

Remember, YOU have to be mentally ready as well. 

Mistake #2 Forcing it before they’re ready or forcing the process when they resist

You don’t want to force this. Again, your child has to be ready. Below are some quick signs that your child might be ready to potty learn. If your child isn’t doing any of these, they may not be ready.

  • Your child is interested in the concept of the toilet and potty.
  • They squat or grunt in a corner to poop. 
  • They do not have bowel movements overnight. 
  • They have more prolonged periods of dry diapers during the day and show that they can hold their urine (ideal is two hours).
  • They are able to pull down loose-fitting clothing, which is an essential aspect of being able to use the toilet. 

Mistake #3 Not getting supplies or preparing

You’ll want to prepare! Below are some items I recommend getting before you start the process. 

  • A support system. It would help if you had a support system and the mindset that this is a time-intensive process, especially in the first few days. Remember there is no time goal, and there will be accidents.  
  • Potty learning books! I bought over 20, anticipating a lot of accidents. I bought ones with the characters my child loves – excavators, Thomas the Train, Blippi, etc. Let them help you pick them out so they have some control over this process.  
  • Underwear, of course! Check out my Amazon page for our favorites!
  • A step stool will be handy even if you use a toddler toilet seat on the floor. This will allow your child to get on the step stool to dump the contents of their toilet into the big toilet and flush and wash their hands.
  • A potty seat for the toilet and a toddler potty in both bathrooms. In our house, we had both because it allowed for the power of choice and autonomy. This is important so your child feels less pressure.
  • Chucks or puppy pads for your couch. Your child will be naked waist down to start potty training, and it’s helpful to have these puppy pads so that you can place them on the sofa in case of accidents.
  • Cleaning supplies for accidents, including a waterproof mattress cover. We didn’t use a cover, however some might find it helpful. We used towels to clean up any accidents.

Curious about my thoughts on a reward system for potty training? Check out my Youtube video

Mistake #4 Not offering consistency

Your child may start strong, and then reality sets in later that they must do something new. This is what we call a honeymoon period. It is so common in children! Consistency is key. Try to keep some resemblance of a routine of people and places in those early days. For example, when he had accidents, we would say things like, “Tell mommy if you need to use the potty. Keep your undies dry. Great job!” I would then show him what dry and wet felt like. We used verbal praise when he did go to the toilet. 

Mistake #5 Stopping training while you travel or go out

Don’t avoid activities and don’t resort back to diapers! The first three days are ideal to stay home, but after that you can consider leaving (for your sanity too). Even some outings on Day 2 or Day 3 like walks in your neighborhood are possible. You can still venture out when potty training! It’s important to not stop the process.

Potty learning is a process, and there will be some steps forward and some perceived steps backward, but it’s part of the process. Let go of the pressure for you and them and devise a strategy that works for your family. You got this!

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Dr. Mona Admin

Hi there!

I’m a Board Certified Pediatrician, IBCLC, and a mom of two.

I know the ups and downs of becoming a mom and raising kids.

I help moms ditch the worry and second-guessing so you can find more joy in motherhood.

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